Talking Saves Lives
Asking someone how they really are, and listening, can make a real difference. Talking openly about suicide does not put the idea in someone's head. It can be the start of them getting help.
Important: If you need help right now
If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E.
For urgent mental health support at any time, call 111 and select option 2. You'll speak to a trained mental health professional, 24 hours a day.
You can also call Samaritans free on 116 123, day or night, or text SHOUT to 85258.
Talking about it helps
It's a common worry that asking someone about suicide might make things worse. The evidence points the other way. Giving someone space to talk about how they feel can bring relief, and it can open the door to support.
You don't need training or the perfect words. You just need to ask, and to listen.
If you're worried about someone
Trust your instincts. If something feels off, say so, gently and directly. Let them know you've noticed, and that you care.
- Ask how they're really doing. It's OK to ask directly whether they've thought about suicide.
- Listen without judging or rushing to fix things.
- Take what they tell you seriously.
- Help them find support, and offer to sit with them while they make a call.
- If they're in immediate danger, stay with them and call 999.
Learn how to have the conversation
The Zero Suicide Alliance offers free online training that takes about 20 minutes. It teaches you how to spot the signs and start a conversation that could save a life.
Ongoing support
If you're looking after your own mental health, your GP can help. You can also refer yourself to West and Central Cheshire Talking Therapies for free support with anxiety and low mood. You don't need to go through us first.
The NHS has clear information on looking after your mental health, and on coping with suicidal thoughts, at nhs.uk/mental-health.